I’ve gotten this question a few times recently, as people think ahead to their wedding invitations for their 2016 weddings: When should I ask people to respond by?
Customarily the return date is when your caterer or your venue needs their numbers in by, PLUS some time for you to call people who have not yet responded. MOST websites recommend two to three weeks. I recommend at LEAST three, especially if you are having a big wedding and anticipate having to track down a lot of non-responders.
I also recommend responses be requested by the 1st or the 15th of the month, where possible. I think it’s easier for people to remember to drop an RSVP into the mail that way. In addition, be sure to have the most accurate address list possible BEFORE sending invitations out to save postage and headaches. No matter what you do though, you will have people that don’t respond. It’s frustrating, for sure, and unfortunately part of the stress that is wedding planning!
In the end, you know your guests better than anyone and how responsive they’ll be. Whatever you do, I recommend erring on the side of leaving yourself as much time as possible.
When did you ask for your responses to be in by? Was it to late? Too early?